The four steps explained:

Explain the steps:
Your first step is to be honest with yourself and take 100% responsibility for your life. Put 100% in what you do as that is everything you got. Don’t give 150% (as that is mathematically impossible and will wear you out) and nothing less is sufficient either. You are where you are today because of the decisions you made. Which were based on the circumstances of your life but nevertheless your decisions led to this point. It is neither good nor bad so take a good look at where you are. What would you say if you where your best friend and you would look at yourself from the outside? What would you see? Don’t judge, just look and see. This is the first step, to KNOW.

Your second step is to believe that what has happened up to here must mean something. All your little bits and pieces here and there, accomplishments, career elements, relationships and hits and misses amount to you. Don’t talk bad about it, don’t throw yourself or anyone else under the bus, just accept it for what it is. You would not be who you are, perfect you that is, if you did not have these experiences. This includes the fights with your Mom, your kid’s hating you, you failed first marriage, your debt on your credit card, your overbite and your love handles. It encompasses that you got fired from that job for being late one to many times, downsized, transferred and your urge to gossip too much. This is the second step, to ACCEPT.

Your third step is to take a very deep relaxing breath. It could be better but it could be a lot worse. If you have never been in a natural disaster or haven’t lost most or everything - consider yourself blessed. Remind yourself consciously that you have it pretty good. You got here in one piece. Bruised and battered but in one piece. That means something and it is good. You have stamina and are a lot stronger than you thought you could ever be. Be proud of that, think about what you have overcome and mastered entirely on your own. The chances that you will be facing another big storm or set out for a great smooth sailing experience are at about 100%. There is no reason to worry about that today or to freak out about what could be. Your life will continue to change. Today is an Ok day, maybe today is a great day. This is your third step, to RELAX.

Your fourth step is to remind yourself of where you are today. You have family and friends that deeply care about you. Even if you don’t like them right now or have been in an argument. Life is good in essence. Find the positive, half full side of everything you do. Remind yourself that you are not in the Olympics and you don’t need to get to your finish line in under 10 seconds. Your life is a journey with hills and valleys and stops. Trust that you will know when to hurry, when to slow down and when to rest. Worry about what happens when it does happen. Spending your nights tossing and turning about something that hasn’t occurred yet is a colossal waste of time and worst it might attract negative things. Worry about your bills only once every two weeks. When you need to figure out how to pay them. Don’t ruin your other 13 days. Be in the moment more and enjoy your journey. This is your fourth step, to LIVE.

Chapter after Chapter

Yesterday and today I have been writing like a maniac. Thank God I am finally feeling better. The last two months have been such a roller coaster as far as my health is concerned. Perhaps the sitting on the couch and the many hours of resting were what I needed to formulate my concept.

I'd like to get feedback. Lot's of it. The concept needs to be tested and I want to make sure that I am not writing anything that is complicated and sounds convoluted. ego-RHYTHM is positive and gentle concept.

While I write for women, if you are a guy visiting this page - welcome. You can give me feedback, too. After all I want you to buy a copy of this book and give it to the woman-who-wants-it-all, your girlfriend or wife. You will score big points if you can show her how to get it all, too.

The Four Steps:

Ego-RHYTHM is a four step concept. It's easy to understand and follow. I call it K.A.R.L. and the letters stand for: Know, Accept, Relax, Live


- Know and identify what ego-RHYTHM you are in.In my book is a list of the most common ego-RHYTHMS that I have identified.
- Accept the current ego-RHYTHM, focus on the main event and let the rest of your life happen.
- Relax, you will change the main focus of your life again according to your personal rhythm. Most people's main rhythm is between 3-4 years.
- Live in the now and don't worry how to accomplish everything you ever wanted by this evening. You get to have it all- just over time and not at once.

My message:

I am a woman who has always wanted it all. If men did not have to decide on either family or career then neither should I have to. I’ve been told many times that it is not possible for women to have it all. Of course I had to prove everyone wrong. There had to be a way to do it. For years I struggled to figure out a way to make it work and I drove myself crazy in the process. There was no time for friends or a social life, it felt as if there was work to do everywhere I looked. I was miserable. I learned about spiritual concepts and Yoga, I meditated and did just about anything that could help me get to that perfect place. Did I mention that I wanted to be happy, too? One day I stopped and looked at my life and suddenly it became clear to me. The secret is that life has a rhythm and the dreaded constant changes were the universes way of giving me what I had asked for. While I was still searching - I had already achieved much of what was on my want it all list. In my book “Women Who Want It All And Get It, Too,” I am sharing my gentle method of knowledge and acceptance of ego-RHYTHM with you.

My dream is that every mother will give this book to her daughter and will give her the message: “This simple method is the key to having it all. It will come over time and not all at once. Your life will change again, you might as well start living fully in the moment.”

What exactly is ego-RHYTHM?

What exactly is ego-RHYTHM?

ego-RHYTHM is a simple method that enables you to approach life in a new light. ego-RHYTHM teaches you how to live your life one rhythm at a time and how to be fully in the moment.

Although ego-RHYTHM applies to both men and women, each has their own way of interpreting it. Men can set one main focus and follow it until their next idea comes into play. Women tend to think too far into the future instead of being focused on the now. ego-RHYTHM will give you the tools to know and accept where you are currently so that you can begin to truly enjoy your journey.

Defining ego-Rhythm

Still working on how to formulate my method. Little did I know how long it takes and how many thoughts go into the creation of a book. First there is your idea and desire to create. I love creation, I love doing something that has not been done before and learning about a new thing. So I created the method of ego-Rhythm. It's a pretty clever little thought I must say so myself. I am still working on how to put it in simple terms so that it is easy to understand. Perhaps I have to ramble along for a little bit to help my thought to formulate.

Most of my career life I had a much easier time to associate with men then with women. For the longest time I thought it has something to do with me being to competitive, but it's not true. I like men especially at work as they can single focus on a topic and just stick with it. Unwaivering and attached to the issue until it is done. Then and only then will they move to another subject or task. While I like some chaos around me and multi tasking I am very project oriented. I can start it from ten different angles and will chip away at each corner until until I get to the point where it becomes messy. Then I have to organize it and it starts to take form.

The method of ego-Rhythm is a main focus idea. While life happens we think we need to be everything at all times to everyone and it is just not possible. I have applied the concept of main focus to our life and voila it is so much easier. Allow yourself to focus on one thing, the rest happens regardless, and you will be able to enjoy the journey.

Law Of Attraction

Why is it that some concepts are so easy to implement and we can succeed in them and others are not? How is it that some self help books leave me feeling inadequate and as if I had not gotten it right? Could it be that the Law of Attraction only works well for some people for certain elements of their lives? Why is it that some things are easier to apply then others? After pondering on it for a few days it dawned on my. Following my idea of ego-RHYTHM the Law of Attraction is no different. Only during the time in which you are destined to achieve a certain component of your life, applying the law works best. Think about all the books you have read. Do they not use very specific examples usually one thing? I remember reading some of the success stories in The Secret. They are very specific, one story says that my husband used it to cure his health. Another story is about a women who used it to invite love into her life.

The trick is to be single focused on one major issue and give your attention to a particular component of your life that you want to improve. Ideally coinciding with where you are in your ego-RHYTHM. The Law of Attraction states that you envision your goal and firmly believe that you have already achieved it. This positive believe system invites all the energies from the universe, God or any other spiritual entity that works for you. It puts the Universe in motion and as we live in harmony and agreement with our surroundings your wish is delivered. Sounds so easy. If it was this easy, when then does not everyone do it and succeed in it every day? We should be one happy continent if this was to work so well.

The law works, but you need to use your knowledge of ego-RHYTHM and where you are in your personal life’s journey. Decide what it is that you want to achieve or attract during this single focus period. Only focus on that, know that you can change your focus if you like. This is your secret to attracting what it is that you want. One final tip: instead of presenting a shopping list, ask for what is best, or your perfect match/career.